Friday, June 6, 2008

Horrid horrid traffic and rains!!!!

3rd June came as a wonderful suprise with the heat finally being countered by the rains! It was raining very beautifully at town side, and I was enjoying the rains sitting cozily in my arm chair, watching movies!

It rained in suburbs the day later, but in suburbs the rain just feels more of a nuicence than enjoyment! There is so much traffic jams in suburbs add to that the rain trickling down your face especially for the auto and the 2-wheelers, and the hidden potholes! GODDDD!

There is so much flyover, road contruction etc going on, that it takes ages to reach from the airport to borivali, really aggeessssssssss! Just take the example of today, I had stayed over at borivali yesterday and had to come to office in the morning, left early in the morning as I had to cover around 37-40kms(borivali to horniman circle) It took me 1 hour 30 mins to reach to the Airport which is just 15 kms and after i crossed the airport, I reached in 45 mins to office that is around 25 kms! Simply amazing!!!

Town is so well organized, not much traffic congestion, potholes, no nuicence rickshaws, order around, feels nice! Suburbs on the other hand are just hopeless! Just wondering why such a big difference, that too in a city itself, it feels like two different cities!

There are three major fly over works happening between borivali and vile parle, thats perhaps leading to this congestion! I cant quite understand, when the MMRDA understands that people flock from Suburbs to the town for work in the morning and back in the evening! How can it have all three flyovers in the same region going on at the same time? Neither do i understand how is J kumar getting all the work! Each and every road construction, flyover is being done by J Kumar, just amazing, arent there any other firms who can construct flyovers? Just smells fishy, talk about monopoly!

These flyovers are gonna take atleast 6 months more to be ready! Till that time perhaps there aint gonna be any respite, add rising oil/petrol prices to the equation! What you do get is.................. very irritated people!

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Being independent

In my first year at grad college, a friend had one told me a dialogue from some amitabh s movie, 'na koi apne age hai, na peeche! yah mein nahi kehta yeh apne naseeb mein likha hai......'

Damn filmy, i used to think, but apart from the filmigiri involved it still is always on my mind,the dialogue means to me a thought of being independent, standing on your own feet and being true to yourself! Somehow all three are related to each other! richard bach has said in 'Illuaions_The adventures of a Reluctant Messiah', that your only true obligation in life is to be true to yourself as being true to others is not only impossible but also a sign of a fake messiah! something that i quite agree with,( forget the messiah part, thats another story)!

We have to learn to be independent, to be true to ourselves! Most of us, especially single children like me are so pampered, given everything before asking for it! they become so dependent on others that they forget to function independently! what they actually forget is that finally in life they are gonna lose all those people who they are dependent on now! My heart really goes out to them, i have seen such people panic and get depressed or helpless when they have to live alone or take decisions themselves! looking at such people situationss i started realizing that finally the only person who is gonna be left is you! we come alone and go alone, and while we are here we are alone, we ve got company ofcourse, but its temporary! from the time this realization stuck me, the need to be independent, i really am striving hard to be independent, to understand myself, to try and be answerable to myself, for whatever things i do or say!

Understanding yourself is extremely important to be independent! you have to be constantly looking out for yourself, what makes you happy, contented, sad. etc! how you think, what you are.... Answering all these and more honestly, helps you understand yourself!

I had a friend who was completely dependent emotionally, mentally. on her group, she still is! a brilliant girl, but no use, she still is so dependent on them, her friend literally control her. she is like a puppet in thier hands who need their support or acceptance to be happy or be sad! she cannot function independently even now! dont know how she would ever handle a project, a partner or even a child on her own! someone who needs others approval to chose their mood, path or an answer is just a dead body, very harsh i know! but really, god has given us such beautiful minds and bodies! WHY LIVE UNDER OTHERS INFLUENCE? WHY NOT CHOOSE WHAT WE WANT FROM LIFE AND GRAB IT WITH BOTH OUR HANDS? WHY DO WE NEED TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO, WHAT NOT TO DO?

I am sure if we take a decision to be independent, our lives would me much better, happier and much much more satisfying!

Hoping this post makes a difference to your life!

Friday, May 23, 2008

Some people to forget.....

All through my schooling and junior college I really had grown respecting girls a lot! I used to always think of girls as nice people, well mannered, kind, pretty and selfless. That was what i had seen around me, girls were very unlike us boys! But this respect i only carried till i got into KRVIA!

I saw and met some of the worst girls in my life there, maybe very few best too, but generally the worse! They really made me change my entire outlook about girls. Didnt have to look too far saw some really selfish and self centred girls right next too me, who s only objectives were to use people, to exploit them financially, mentally, emotionally whichever possible! They hung with the rich guys\girls with cars money, enough to get them booze to enjoy parties and safe rides home! to have a car to pick them drop them, company to take them to the best places which maybe they couldnt afford without his\her company. In return what they gave them was a cute smile, a hug maybbe and a long living feeling of being there whenever he or she needed them! ten thousand calls just to make sure hes doing fine, completed his\her submissions, but finally all for a selfish purpose! It wasnt just the material needs, some needed emotional support, some needed boozing partners, agony uncles and aunties, need of a family and god knows what all...............

KRVIA has been perhaps the only architectural college which has been able to boast of spoilt kids of the whos-who of the industry, maybe one of the reason why it became a hub of so much politics, scandals, controversies etc. on other hand it has produced some of the brilliant and dedicated architects of mumbai! Maybe exposure to these things at such an early stage itself makes you strong enough to handle any negativity outside in the world, profession or offices. I saw the way things worked there, it was way too harrowing at first, saw crazy people doing crazy thing and people around calling it cool just to ensure that others dont call them crazy. To stand up and protest was a crime, better be quiet and let things happen, otherwise they will take your case!

I met a lot of preachers there, yes, architect cum preacher, archi-eacher lets call them that for the moment! Surprisingly who had never supervised a contruction site for a day, never built a house or an office or for that matter even a wall, but who knew very well to critique, almighties who knew the right from wrong, saviours of the architectural scene of mumbai or india too!

They had a lot of followers too, who praised them and believed in every word they said, and they got rewarded! the rewards being praise, marks, awards, nominations, and to few lucky ones ready made designs and outside projects!

At first i didnt understand if you dont practise something how can you preach it? as we know charity begins at home! but later on I realized they were advanced souls, philosophers, saints maybe who wanted our good and society s too maybe! Nevertheless, after repeated attempts to understand and realize that they were just fake, i paid no heed! but it was fatal, how can you take a fight with an all knowing messiah? i burnt my fingers fighting with this fire, but anyways the finger healed, left a scar though and deep sense of realization that told me 'function independently', donot care cuz i knew what i was doing was right and also got me to eagerly come out, practise, design and build beyond sheets, build in real life, real land, material and people!

I was right, i was made to design and build, at 23 i have list of projects designed and implemented, a list that surpasses my preachers's and their followers's! Point is not to be proud of this fact, point is that this blog is for each one of you, who has been preached at your school, college, work place, who has been used by selfish people, who has been ridiculed, teased for small, not so small things, for those who have been told they cannot do it! I tell you, YOU CAN DO IT, YOU CAN DO ANYTHING THAT YOU BELIEVE IN!

You keep meeting all these above mentioned types of people all your life, you have to keep your head up, fight them, and move on.... life is too big, so even though you have been down till now, you can still rise up and make your mark!

I havent really done anything expectional till now and i also have a few backlogs and keep having few set backs on the way, but i know i am gonna make it and reach my goals though all these negative things and people! They are just gonna stand below and shout, nag and laugh, while we will be on the top, so far up that their voices will never reach us, EVER!

So, all the very best for you dear friends!


Friday, February 22, 2008

How to Stay Young n Happy Always :-)

1. Throw out non-essential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.

Let the doctors worry about them.. That is why you pay them.

2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)

3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.

'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!

4. Enjoy the simple things

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!

6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.

The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourself.
LIVE while you are alive.

7 Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.

Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health:

If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

Some things to read............

“Promise me you'll never forget me because if I thought you would I'd never leave.”

“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we're afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we'll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy.”

"Jo dar gaya, samjho mar gaya!"

I hate liars..............I really really hate lies! If you dont have the guts to speak the truth please keep quiet, Dont lie!

It takes a lot of character to speak the truth, call spade a spade, but tell you............its worth it!


At one moment you are "rich and famous" at another you are broke and booed! I believe "LIFE IS ABOUT WHAT LASTS"

Life is not about friends, relationships, projects etc that came in the way and faded away, ITS ABOUT THE PEOPLE AND THINGS WHO STAYED ALL THROUGH THE WAY!!!

"We will find the way, or make it" -Hannibal

“I believe I am lost.”

The girl in the tower laughed. “That’s ridiculous. You can’t be lost. You’re here.”

“But I’m not supposed to be here.”

“Of course you are. Wherever you are is where you’re supposed to be. It makes perfect sense.”


"Would you tell me which way I ought to go from here?" asked alice.

"That depends a good deal on where you want to get."
said the Cat.

"I really don't care where" replied Alice.

"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat.

[Alice in wonderland, 1865]
-Lewis Carroll, novelist and poet

Sunday, February 10, 2008

Smile while you bleeding!!!!!

My tragedy’s different
My life’s deep, listen,
My past is everything , wrong, and my arrogance
Walk down the stairs pissin’
Cop us cuz they’re bitchin’
life isnt fair, singin’

I should run, forfit, and everything I know LISTEN,

I was
The misdirected
I was
The least expected
Hop on
And get rejected
Walk on
And feel neglected
I feel
Like im the message
But Im the message

Im the last prolific remaining offer from the gutter
was my girlfriend
We was younger
I was scarred yo
I survived though
It’s came easy
the games needs me
Never let them see me down, smile while Im bleeding
It hurt me that you never listened
It cant be the same
I had to grow my intuision
Had me deep in pain
Cause i knew my options were either broke or the prison chains
I can’t do it
I can’t see it, look
Damnit, I can’t blow it
I got a judge tellin me my lifes key
they will throw it
nuh-uh, no sir
i plan to have a chauffeur
it seems to me this chopping crack is really going no where
I’m resurrected
They call me
The poor Injection
I infect you with the real
The Dustyfeetphilosahectagos
I spit, so sick
I skid out
Im fallin’
I’m Shit outta luck and I’m trapped but ill get out
Can You Help me
Im goin crazy
My fists bloody and blistered
a pair Like im balistic
I just stare at the red and smile while im bleedin
There are a few things you gotta take into acount
im not an entertainer i’ve never been a clown
i would walk with the kids that would bbbrrraaaa a sound ah
never really thought i’d make it to fourteen
and anybody wanted to fight i was most keen
plus i had a little temper it was often forseen
you get laughed at for being so insensitive to the environment
cause how will you be heard when those big boys are firin’
but please, please, please, please
but never let em see you down smile while you bleedin’

When your struggilin
When Your in jail
When your dead broke
And the rents due
You aint got friends now
And no one knows you
Never let them see you down smile while you bleeding
When he leaves you
Cause girl he needs you
Plenty single mothers cry the tears you do
Dispite the war
despite the pain yo
Never let them see you down smile while you bleeding